FAQs

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If you have any specific questions about my practice or counselling in general please do check out the FAQs below.

However, if you can’t find what you’re looking for here please do visit my Contact Me page to see how to get in touch by phone or e-mail.

Who I can work with and help

Yes.  To my regret I never learned any other languages with any degree of fluency but, providing you have a grasp of conservational English, we can work together.

My task as a counsellor is to work hard to understand your world and your experiences as completely and as accurately as I possibly can.  Even native English speakers can find that mere words become limited when trying to express their deepest selves in the counselling room.   At these times we need to work at an appropriate pace using whatever techniques that might be available to help us reach an understanding.  This will be the case whether to not we share a first language.

I am always pleased to work with clients from other cultures and nationalities.  Whilst it might seem that working with a counsellor who doesn’t share the same background as you would be a disadvantage in therapy it can be just the opposite.  One of the biggest mistakes I can make as a counsellor is to unintentionally make assumptions about my clients’ experiences or values.  Ironically, the more similar our backgrounds the more likely I am to fall into such a trap.

We all are shaped by the culture and society we grew up in and, sometimes, it can be easier for someone who doesn’t share the same cultural baggage as we do to help us see past our own assumptions and blind spots.

No.  I only work with adults over the age of 18 years at this time.

Yes.  Suicidal thoughts and feelings are very common and a normal human response at times when we feel hopeless or overwhelmed by pain.

As a counsellor I am very comfortable talking about such feelings and I won’t shy away from them or judge you.  My first priority will be to understand exactly what it is you are feeling and whether you might be at any serious risk of harm.  For many clients such feelings come and go and talking about them can be an important aspect of their therapy.

If you are considering taking steps to end your life we will talk in detail about what we might do in order to protect you as well as any actions you might not want me to take.  I believe that people do have the right to choose to take their own life but I will consider, under certain circumstances, breaking confidentiality to protect a client I thought was at imminent risk of serious harm.  This is a complex area and will be different for every single person.

If this is something you would like to talk about but are worried about the consequences of disclosing suicidal tendencies I offer a free, initial consultation where we can talk about this difficult area in a hypothetical manner such that you can make an informed choice about whether you would like to work with me or not.  I am also happy to talk about such matters anonymously over the phone.

If you are reading this and you are in imminent danger of causing serious harm to yourself right now then the Samaritans offer a life-saving, anonymous listening service 24 hours a day.  Just dial 116 123 from the UK.  You can also contact your GP or if you are already at crisis point you can dial 999 or take yourself to your nearest Accident and Emergency department.

Yes.  I have worked with and helped a number of clients who are in or have survived abusive relationships.  I recognise the huge impact that such relationships can have on us and how easy it can be to lose your sense of self.  I recognise that the emotional scars from an abusive relationship can remain long after the relationship itself has ended.

If you are currently in an abusive relationship then counselling can provide a safe space where you can make sense of what you’re going through and, perhaps, figure out what choices you might have before you.  As a counsellor it is not my place to ever tell you what you should do or to judge the decisions you might make.

If you are a survivor of an abusive relationship or relationships then I can help you to process your experiences and to understand the many ways in which that the relationship/s might have impacted upon your life.  Whilst there is nothing that I or anyone else can do to make up for those experiences I can help you to process them and move on.

 

Yes.  I’ve worked with a number of clients who have struggled to live with and manage their anger.  I believe that anger is a much-misunderstood emotion and one that often comes hand in hand with great fear and shame. If you struggle with feelings of anger and rage I can help you to explore what lies behind your feelings and to learn to manage and channel your feelings.

I am heavily influenced by the work of Sue Parker-Hall and have completed training in her empathic approach to anger management.

 

Yes. Most of us suffer loss and grief at points in our lives and the pain that comes from losing a loved one can be unbearable. Whilst that pain never completely leaves us I can help you though the grieving process.

Yes.  Depression is a complicated and varied phenomenon.  It has many possible causes and affects different people differently.  In my therapeutic experience depression is most often a normal, human response to things being wrong in our life.  These might be specific, identifiable things or a more general sense of wrongness with no apparent, specific cause.  Working on the underlying issues or feelings can help alleviate the depression.

However, I also recognise that severe depression can be a serious. mental health condition that can require medical intervention.

Please feel free to contact me if you would like to talk about your depression.  If I don’t think I am the right person to help I will do my best to point you in the direction of someone who can.

 

Yes.  Anxiety is a normal human emotion but one that a growing number of us experience as an overwhelming and disabling force in our lives.

I have successfully helped a number of clients who have suffered with anxiety and panic attacks and I feel that my approach to counselling along with my naturally gentle, patient manner are particularly suited to this type of work.

Please contact me here if you would like to discuss your particular needs. I recognise that, ironically, looking for a new counsellor can be exactly the sort of thing that might trigger high levels of anxiety in someone.  I promise to treat all of my clients with the utmost patience, respect and kindness from our very first contact to the our last.

It would depend.  Serious eating disorders like anorexia nervosa can be life threatening and if you are at serious risk of medical complications resulting from your eating disorder then you need specialist support and care that I am not qualified to provide.  Your GP should be your first port of call if you are worried that you or a loved one might be at serious risk of harm as a result of an eating disorder.

However, we all have a unique and complex relationship with food and diet and this can be rich and rewarding area to explore in counselling.  It is quite possible for us to have disordered eating patterns without necessarily needing to be diagnosed with an eating disorder.

Please feel free to talk to me about your particular needs and if I can’t help I will do my best to point you in the direction of someone who can.

Yes. I am not a specialist in this field but I have worked with a number of clients and helped them in exploring their own sexuality.  As with any other issue I can offer you an open-minded, non-judgemental space where you can talk freely about this deep and complex part of ourselves.

Yes although I do not have any specialist training in this field. I would be pleased to meet you and talk about what your needs are. If I think you would benefit from more specialist support than I can offer I will tell you and try to point you in the right direction.

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